babyshower!!

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By: gsal
Member since Jan 18, 2011
Posted: May 24, 2011
So I have a question, are you going to pay for your own baby shower or is someone else paying everything for you? Cuz my baby shower will be at my sisters house but because her husband paid for all of her baby showers she said I have to pay everything for mine and that she will help with some things but I'm really tight on money and the money I have saved up is for my little man once he arrives and it's not much.so now I'm thinking of not having a babyshower cuz I thought family would make your babyshower for u but since I have to pay I don't think I'll be able to have one :/
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Avatar jessilyn13
By: jessilyn13
Member since Feb 27, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I'm paying for mine
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By: Audreymomma2011
Member since Apr 20, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
my sil is paying for everything. diaper cake, cake, decorations, food ect. i thought the person throwing the shower is spoused to pay for it...
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By: dottiemommy
Member since Apr 12, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
my sister and my mom paid. so in your situation i guess i wouldnt have one, i couldnt ask my familt to pay for it.
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By: gsal
Member since Jan 18, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
Yea I thought the person throwing it was suppose to pay as well but I guess not and it sucks since this is my first baby I was excited about having a babyshower since my sisters always had one I couldn't wait for mine. But I gotta see I guess
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By: itsagirllll
Member since Apr 11, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
my sister and my mom is paying for mine and my sisters friend is doing a diaper cake for me :)
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By: KitKatAhoy
Member since Dec 22, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My mom is paying for some, like the hall and some of the food, I am paying for most of the food which I'm not happy about bc I am only minimally involved and they're throwing it for me. I'm not trying to be a brat, we just are trying to save money right now and have too many parties and events in the same month. My mother-in-law is doing the decorations and cake, and my sister-in-law is doing the games. They never really discussed how they would split paying for it all so I'm assuming they are just paying for their parts that they asked to be in charge of.
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By: aliviasmom
Member since Oct 20, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I had two small showers and both I did not pay for...I helped out by making some side dishes and coming early to help set up!! But traditionally the person throwing the shower pays!! I did pay for the thank you's!
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By: ROCmommy
Member since Dec 27, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I plan to offer to pay for everything. I don't think it should be someone else's responsibility. If they say no, then I will tell them not to get me another gift.
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By: milligan0227
Member since May 17, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I paid for most of my shower...but had help from a few people that wanted to chip in
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By: Beccastarr
Member since Feb 18, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
Usually the person throwing it pays for it. I've never heard of offering to throw someone a shower but telling them they have to pay. That sounds incredibly stupid. People that throw their own usually pay for their own but not when someone else throws it. I've thrown alot of showers before and never would have asked the recipient for money. That seems tacky to me.
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By: CRamos92
Member since Nov 21, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
With mine, my husbands family worked together in throwing our baby shower! I just helped decorate and gifts for the games. But my sister bought my shower cake! My mom had a separate shower for me cuz both our family don't quiet get along But it is tradition for the family to throw the shower if it your first baby....so I've read and been told.
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By: dts776
Member since Apr 12, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My family and bf's family paid for mine. I bought a few cute things I wanted like advice cards for the table, but thats all.
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By: livie814
Member since May 06, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
that's ridiculous. i feel bad that whoever threw your sister's made her pay. if no one throws one for me, then I won't have one. if you pay for and put it on yourself, your basically having a "hey everyoone, give me presents" party. i'm not a huge ettiquitte person, but that seems rude. the shower itself should be a gift from someone else.
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By: 2BMommax2
Member since Mar 23, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I agree. If you offer to throw a shower then you pay for the shower. If you dont want to pay, don't offer.
My sis is throwing mine but I'll try and help out a bit, just cause. I'll be getting her a gift as well for throwing the party.
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By: carmelbarbie
Member since Feb 13, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My family is paying for everything. Both of my sisters are the host and they are renting a hall and catering the food, paying for decorations, and are still so eager to buy shower gifts. I love my family they are so supportive of everything, I really wanna help they said all I need to do is show up. I did create the guest list and registry for the shower. I'm sending out the invitations in which I have over 30 ppl attending!
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By: GennasMom
Member since Apr 23, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My mother and mother in law threw mine but I helped organize the games. The prizes were nothing too fancy.. we made lollipops out of wash cloths. It was at the town hall (only like $25-30 to rent) then they made all the food and ordered a cake. Some other family members brought dishes to pass too so I think it was fairly cheap and the turn out was great.
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By: the_one
Member since Oct 26, 2010
Posted: on May 24, 2011
Make it very simple, bake the cake yourself if you know how, get cheap foods like potato chips, soda, a block of cheddar cheese and cut it in pieces, summer sausage is cheap. Maybe a fruit platter with lots of grapes, tortillas chips and salsa, you get the idea... Just make it a day for people to get together and celebrate baby rather than just a reason to get gifts, make sure everyone knows you're not expecting gifts (they will bring them anyway if they wish), theres games ideas you can get online where you don't need to buy anything.

But yes usually whoever offers pays.
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By: GennasMom
Member since Apr 23, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
We also had a gift bag for people that came... it consisted of bath salts and soap (bought fairly cheap in a large qty on ebay) and a pack of seeds with a poem glued on it about growing seeds and babies.
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By: mommystar
Member since Feb 07, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
Unless you have a cool family member or an awesome friend u r going to have to pay of throw your own shower for me my inlaws could have cared less if I had one or not and my husband was waiting for someone to approach him so sorry but u will pay and might have to host ur shower
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By: NatalieL
Member since Apr 11, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
I had three showers and didn't pay for anything. I thought the person throwing the shower was supposed to pay. My Sisters threw me one for our family, my SIL threw one for their family & my friends had one for our friends. Why would anyone have any kind of a party for someone then tell them they had to pay for it?
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By: lilysmama10
Member since Apr 19, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My grandma threw my last one and constantly had me help with this and that and in the end I actually paid for most of it, so I decided I wasn't having one this time around, but my mom and mil really wanted to throw me one and promised I wouldn't have to worry about anything but what to wear. :) Sounds good to me! :)
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By: Torii
Member since Apr 15, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
You dont have to have anythig fancy... screw the diaper cakes and decorations. Finger sandwiches is will be :) Its your day you shouldnt pay out the waahwoosha to make it all crazy fancy for them. I will have a VERY SIMPLE babyshower and Im not even paying for it. But I dont see the point on spending alot on something like that
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By: karebaremama
Member since Apr 04, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
My sister is paying for the whole thing-she's 21 and doesnt make a third of what I do and she will not let me pitch in a dime. The person who chooses to throw a shower for you pays. If you asked for the shower and it's being held at someones house, that still doesn't make them the responsible host and one to pay for everything.
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By: 702Sunshine
Member since Mar 24, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
If the host is generous enough to pay for the whole thing then it's great but if it's all up to you then instead of buying a fancy cake, go to the dollar store and purchase cupcake batter and frosting according to baby gender. There's nothing wrong with dollar store cake, I make them all the time for events. Dollar stores also has party favor stuff and most likely baby shower decorations. Food wise, make a salad bar (no need to buy packaged ones, making your own from scratch is cheap!) finger sandwiches, chips n dip(s) and deviled eggs. As for the diaper cake, go on youtube and some will show you how to make a small one so you don't have to go out and buy so many packages (although they'll come in handy either way). Those are just some ideas, hope everything turns out great for you.
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By: gsal
Member since Jan 18, 2011
Posted: on May 24, 2011
Thanks for the advice girls! I will defiantly be doing that.
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