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Mystique
Alt12 Moderator.

I'm 39 wks tomorrow. My son's dad and I were never together. It was a one night (drunken) fling between two friends and I got knocked up, even after taking Plan B.

Tomorrow I am most likely being induced due to sky high proteins in my 24 hr urine sample. I have an appt at 130 so I'll know more then.

In a nut shell, my baby's dad is overall wanting to be in his son's life but he has been making it EXTREMELY difficult to work anything out!

1. I have not met his family. He doesn't deem it "necessary" and thinks I am being unreasonable when I say he is NOT taking my son ANYWHERE when I do not know who he will be around. I mean, that's literally trusting complete strangers! I just can't do it but he absolutely refuses to at least meet his parents! Idek why they WOULDN'T want to meet me so at this point I've chalked it up to them having no idea about me having their son's child.

2. He has in no way denied or questioned whether or not this child is his, but he is refusing to sign the birth certificate until DNA is confirmed. I'm totally ok with this, he has every right to get his piece of mind with a DNA test. The problem I have is him telling everyone that I refuse to give our son his last name when I legally cannot do it without him on the bc. So we have to wait then pay to change his last name later which is fine with me but he's trying to make me look like a heartless b**** ...

3. He also refuses to meet my family. I have no idea why. They don't hate him and he's never even seen them for him to make that judgement. So he told me he only wants to come up to the hospital after the baby is born and stay AN HOUR and for my fam to just come up there afterwards. He doesn't want to be in the delivery room (claims he has a weak stomach)... So is he expecting me to go thru delivery alone and my fam isn't gonna be up there or something?! And that they should just leave when he gets there because HE said so?! We are NOT on his time and this is NOT about him.

This is just the TIP of the iceberg. I want my son to have his dad around but it can't be on HIS terms. There are so many other details I could include but I'm mostly looking for advice as to whether or not I should just wait until I am home for him to come see his son? I feel like he is going to stress me out and that's the last thing I need when I'm recovering. I mean, he's not really needed since he has no interest in staying there to help or even sign the bc or anything. Its like hes just another visitor that comes up to see the baby and he makes it seem like he needs to fit it in his schedule.

Would I be totally wrong to make him wait?

I am so lonely. My mom and dad are in separate states. I moved here to be with my SO and have worked too much since arriving to make any friends. He said he would be so happy and he is, I guess. But he is a realist. He often mentions how hard this will make things and rarely mentions any good that it will bring. I know he is just working through it in his head but he is the only support I have here. I need someone to say this will be a good thing. I fought so hard for my fertility and have yet to feel connected to this baby at all. It isn't fair. I'm just terrified and alone and feel too ashamed to say it. I thought I'd be happy and asked for this blessing. My dad is manic depressive/bipolar. Maybe thats it? Maybe he passed it to me? I have always fought to stay up to stay high, but now I'm just clawing desperately at air to not hit the ground. :-(

I'll play too.
Me with my sweet Leo.

10yr old DS got stung on the bottom of his foot. Already gave benedryl and have been icing it. He says it still hurts. Which would be the better option- Tylenol or Advil??

Not really, but she definitely prefers my mother, her grandma, over me. It breaks and warms my heart at the same time. I love knowing dd and her will have this incredible bond, dd follows my mom around the house and constantly wants to be around her, but it also sucks when your own baby wants to be around someone else more than you. Lol anyone else have a baby that clearly prefers another family member over you?

My DH finally felt the baby he's been acting like I'm crazy but he felt it made my week;)