Firstly, welcome. Secondly, we are so sorry you had to join us.
This post is a starting point for grief resources as you move through your journey. You will find resources to connect with other Mums and to express your grief. There is so much more out there in the wonderful online world of babyloss Mums. So if you find a great site please post it below and I will add it to the post.
Within these boards you will find the most amazing, brave, strong and kind women. All have arrived via a different road, but we are each now sharing the same journey: grieving the death of our children. There is no right or wrong way. It's about survival, and later, learning to live life without them.
The sun will shine again.
Memorial keepsakes
www.namesinthesand.blogspot.com
www.sueellasignatures.com.au
Photographic services
www.nowilaymedowntosleep.com
www.heartfelt.com.au
Art sites
www.stilllife365.com
www.glowinthewoods.com
Websites
www.facesofloss.com
www.october15th.com
http://internationalbabylostmothersday.blogspot.com
www.UK-sands.com
www.sidsandkids.com.au
www.aheartbreakingchoice.com
<i>The resources in this post and thread have been suggested by forum members. They are not endorsed by Alt12/BabyBump. Thanks to kmw1980_sydney and all who contribute to this thread. - the Alt12 team</i>
Welcome to this forum
Although the title of this forum is Miscarriage and Grief, all kinds of pregnancy related loss expression are welcome here, including but not limited to: stillbirth, abnormality pregnancy/birth, D&C, and death of a child.
For general grief support outside of pregnancy related loss, please visit the off-topic forum.
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I have seen a lot of post that ladies put saying their friend had a miscarriage and they don't know what to say. I thought those of us who have had a miscarriage/ stillborn could tell them what helped us. Also what not to say.
I will go first. Say your sorry or your there for them
don't say
its probably better it happened what if something had been wrong with the baby.
at least you were not further along.
I will go first. Say your sorry or your there for them
don't say
its probably better it happened what if something had been wrong with the baby.
at least you were not further along.
by mom2JandA on Dec 28, 2011
HELLO LADIES, I JUST WANTED TO START A R.I.P. PAGE FOR ALL THE ONES WHO HAVE LOST THEIR LITTLE ONES. I'M SORRY FOR EACH AND EVERY LOSS THAT HAS HAPPENED.
<i>Cece27 asked that this Memorial thread be stickied. Small edits have been made to help make the message read as intended. With our sympathies - the Alt12 Community team</i>
<i>Cece27 asked that this Memorial thread be stickied. Small edits have been made to help make the message read as intended. With our sympathies - the Alt12 Community team</i>
by Cece27 on Apr 19, 2011
Hi Ladies,
Many participants in this group have cleared the Name/Due Date setting on the BabyBump app.
There is a second setting called the "Community Profile" setting that is
editable via the web. It looks like sometimes this setting does not completely
clear if the app's info is changed. The developers are aware of this fault and have a correction for it in the next version update.
This fault means that sometimes you may see pregnancy information via the website or via email and/or incorrect pregnancy information on your Community profile screen.
The field can be cleared by going to babybumpapp.com, logging in to the account,
then going to Edit Profile.
If you are having trouble clearing this field, please write to us at support@alt12.com. Our support team would be happy to manually change this setting for you.
Best wishes,
Zella
Alt12 Apps Community Manager
Many participants in this group have cleared the Name/Due Date setting on the BabyBump app.
There is a second setting called the "Community Profile" setting that is
editable via the web. It looks like sometimes this setting does not completely
clear if the app's info is changed. The developers are aware of this fault and have a correction for it in the next version update.
This fault means that sometimes you may see pregnancy information via the website or via email and/or incorrect pregnancy information on your Community profile screen.
The field can be cleared by going to babybumpapp.com, logging in to the account,
then going to Edit Profile.
If you are having trouble clearing this field, please write to us at support@alt12.com. Our support team would be happy to manually change this setting for you.
Best wishes,
Zella
Alt12 Apps Community Manager
by ZellaCommunityManager on Feb 27, 2013
No replies
I had a chemical pregnancy in March and lost my little one at just about 5 weeks. Everything went through naturally, but my next cycle was 4-5 days late. This cycle was supposed to be here last week but was a no show. I am now a whole 7 days late :/ does this just happen for a while?
by justme2190 about 1 hour ago
I see so many posts about people grieving etc so I thought I'd do a post for you all who need a little comfort.
Iv lost 3 babies in all 1.at 13weeks 1.at 6weeks and my son at 18weeks.
It's ok to feel sad for a long time and be some what jealous/envious of other women's bumps or newborns.
Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve, you have to grieve before you can begin to heal.
Don't let comments of "how early you were" or "we'll look at it this way.." Or "you can try again" get to you, as no one who hasn't gone through a loss will EVER no the pain you hold, be it 4weeks or 40weeks a loss is a loss.
Some people find it easier to cope when not even mentioning a loss but then some people it can help so much just to talk about it! Don't find your self strange if you do either of these! We all handle things differently!
Speaking to women that have experienced what you have, it can help with yours and there questions, or sharing a story with someone who has experienced a loss can be some what comforting.
The empty feeling, aching arms, hurt & sorrow takes time to heal and wont ever completely go, but just don't rush the process.
If you want to remember your angel try a memory box personalised for you angel or angels, this helped me so much! I wrote letters & poems put scan pictures in there and made fabric flowers also hospital notes I kept were put in there also :)
Don't think because you have lost an angel baby you may never get your rainbow baby, as destiny has picked a special day for you which will be the most amazing day of the rest of your life.
I'm sharing what I really wanted to hear after loosing my angels so hopefully this is of help to some other people :)
I'm very spiritual I do believe in after life I do see spiritualists and currently working on gaining more skills in the area, so if I sound like a hippy I'm really not :) lol but don't hesitate to ask questions etc even if its about my losses or beliefs etc I don't mind :) you can also private message me with anything you like if its questions or just to vent.
Im thinking of starting a group so people can share stories or just look for comfort. If I decide to do so il give details on this post :)
Iv lost 3 babies in all 1.at 13weeks 1.at 6weeks and my son at 18weeks.
It's ok to feel sad for a long time and be some what jealous/envious of other women's bumps or newborns.
Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve, you have to grieve before you can begin to heal.
Don't let comments of "how early you were" or "we'll look at it this way.." Or "you can try again" get to you, as no one who hasn't gone through a loss will EVER no the pain you hold, be it 4weeks or 40weeks a loss is a loss.
Some people find it easier to cope when not even mentioning a loss but then some people it can help so much just to talk about it! Don't find your self strange if you do either of these! We all handle things differently!
Speaking to women that have experienced what you have, it can help with yours and there questions, or sharing a story with someone who has experienced a loss can be some what comforting.
The empty feeling, aching arms, hurt & sorrow takes time to heal and wont ever completely go, but just don't rush the process.
If you want to remember your angel try a memory box personalised for you angel or angels, this helped me so much! I wrote letters & poems put scan pictures in there and made fabric flowers also hospital notes I kept were put in there also :)
Don't think because you have lost an angel baby you may never get your rainbow baby, as destiny has picked a special day for you which will be the most amazing day of the rest of your life.
I'm sharing what I really wanted to hear after loosing my angels so hopefully this is of help to some other people :)
I'm very spiritual I do believe in after life I do see spiritualists and currently working on gaining more skills in the area, so if I sound like a hippy I'm really not :) lol but don't hesitate to ask questions etc even if its about my losses or beliefs etc I don't mind :) you can also private message me with anything you like if its questions or just to vent.
Im thinking of starting a group so people can share stories or just look for comfort. If I decide to do so il give details on this post :)
by mummy.2.monsters about 1 hour ago
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by Noelles_a_new_mommy on Mar 07, 2013
Hey ladies, I really didn't think I would miscarry again but tonight I've had a watery pink discharge when I wipe. I'm trying to stay positive and hoping it's going to be okay. Last time it was different to this though. Has anyone had watery pink discharge when they wipe and did it end up being okay? I'm only 4 weeks 4 days.
by Lissy_lou 4 days ago
