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Whenever my little bro wets himself he has a real bad erection.He is 2.5 so not making sperm so why does he erect????????? Please Reply soon!

My 3 year old dd just came down with this last night, midwife wants me to come in for blood tests next week. The kid doesn't even go to daycare, but my other dd's middle school has a huge outbreak.

Question is... I obviously have been exposed, I can't stay away from my dd.. Any one else turn out ok with being pregnant and having a child with this? Currently 24+4

I have a list of concerns about my 12 month old son. First of all, about 3 to 4 months ago he forgot how to roll from his tummy to his back and still can't. He also can not get into a sitting position by himself. If I set him in a sitting position he can sit up, but he can't get into one alone. He also can't crawl; he can shove himself backward while on his tummy but can't drag himself forward. Needless to say I am a concerned, frustrated mother!

Ok, so there are always tonnes of posts on here about time outs, spanking, how to punish kids for not "minding" and for acting out etc. My responses to these posts are generally the same, and are usually met with reactions like I am totally crazy for not "punishing" my kids. The thought is that I must let them walk all over me and get away with whatever they want- which is not the case.

Anyway , I just read this article this morning and it sort of sums up what I try to follow- just in case anyone is intersted!

http://www.ahaparenting.com/_blog/Parenting_Blog/post/Kids_Just_Want_to_Have_Fun/

An excerpt:

Helping kids with their feelings. When kids don't follow our guidance, it's because something else was driving their behavior, which felt even more urgent than pleasing us. That something is always big needs or feelings. When kids can't understand their feelings, or show you their feelings directly, they act them out. (That's what we mean when we say kids are "acting out.")

When you punish the behavior, you aren't helping him with the feelings, so they burst out in some other way. If, instead, you empathize, you help your child accept and therefore manage his emotions. When kids "act out" with anger, you set limits -- but you do it with compassion so he feels safe crying those feelings out. Which of these approaches will help your child with his emotions, so he doesn't need to "act them out" in the future?

(From across the room) "You know better than to throw that! If you throw that, you're going straight to the Naughty Step! Ok, that's it! You asked for it!"

(Putting hand on arm to stop child from throwing, getting down on his level to look with compassion into his eyes, speaking gently) "Sweetie, I won't let you throw that.....It's ok to be sad and mad, but no throwing....Now you're crying....Come here, Sweetie."


Anyone have any thoughts on this? what do you think?

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and my 3 yr old has been climbing in bed with us every night this week. How do I get her back out? I don't want her in my bed when the baby comes because I'll be getting up all night for feedings. And it's uncomfortable to have her squished between us. Any tips on getting her to stay in her bed? We moved her out of our room months ago..

my 6 year old dd has a "friend" that lives near us and is kind of a brat but her mother is horrid. my daughter is always complaining about this kid one day then the next playing with her... I told my dd that if this girl wasn't going to be nice to her then she wasn't allowed to come over to our house. yesterday we put out large pool up as its going to be 95 out today. anyways the girl comes running over and says she's sorry about being bad to dd and wants to show how good she can be.... then asked if she could go in the pool.... Idk what to do, with this child's track record I doubt she's really sorry and only wants to swim in our pool.... any imput?

Hi ladies,
I thought you guys are the best people to ask my 7 year old has started developing tiny breasts but what I wasn't expecting was for her to already have some pubic hair. Is this normal she's only 7 and a half shes still a baby in my eyes. I was about 12 when I started puberty this seems so so young? I have been very open about it to reassure her as she could start her period soonish. Has anyone else been through this?

Before I start, I would just like to say that this is NOT a hormonal rant. This is a genuine, genuine question.... What would you do if you received a letter from your daughter/son saying this:

Please take this letter seriously and don't just think I am writing it because I am angry. I'm not, I'm writing it because I want to sort things out, and make life easier and more argument free for both of us.

It just feels like we argue every single day and I wanted to write you this letter instead of shouting and stomping off. I think it's better to put in writing because then I can think about what I am saying and phrase it correctly, and you can read it in your own time.

First of all, I don't like it when you randomly criticise me. For example a few days ago I said my head hurt and you told me to stop talking about myself. It also feels to me that I am being picked up on every little thing I do and I can't do anything right. To me, it feels like if I do one thing it turns into an argument straight away, and it always ends up with you saying that your the adult and I am the child, which I don't like because it makes me feel like I deserve less respect that you, even though I know that I deserve the same amount. Obviously you ARE the adult but I don't think it needs to be put into words every single time I do something wrong.
I think that we should talk through things instead of you immediately saying that as I am the daughter you can decide for me, because it sounds like you think that I don't have an opinion.
Also, when I am in my room you say that I am up there too much, but when I am with you, you say I either talk too much or am annoying by arguing, which annoys me because it's like I can't win.

You tell me to react differently to situations, by not shouting, but I only shout because when I talk it feels like you don't listen to my side of the story or my feelings about whatever happened to make us argue.
I try hard to be a good daughter, and sometimes I shout or I am mean to someone, but I feel like you act like I should be perfect, and I try my hardest, I can't try any harder than that because nobody's perfect and I am only human. And after we argue you always say that everyone is allowed to have days where they're moody, but I still get shouted at if I am moody or if I even make one sarcastic comment by accident. And also, it is my personality to be sarcastic and sometimes answer back, and you want me to change that but sometimes I'm not even trying
to be mean, I'm just sticking up for myself when I know I haven't done anything wrong.
I also feel like you're trying to control me and I know you are my mum so you obviously have a right to control me until I am eighteen and an adult, but it's like you don't let me do things that I want to do, and if you do let me do them, you're reluctant about letting me do things. You say that you want me to spend more time with you but when I spend time with everyone it seems to me like all we ever do is argue, and everyone is always picking on me, and you always act like you are tired of me, but when I am tired I am expected to still talk to everyone and be cheerful.
I think that you treat my siblings differently to me as well, because if they are upset about anything i immediately get the blame, and if I ever say something is unfair you say it is because they have that condition which means they are different to other people. But it still feels like they get away with much more stuff than I do.
So basically, the reason I hide in my room so much is because it always feels like I can't do anything right because I am constantly being told I'm doing something wrong, and it's really unfair, so that is why I don't come downstairs very much and when I do, I don't talk a lot.

Please just tell me how you would react? And don't judge me or criticise me for coming on to the parenting section, because I really need advice. I'm crying right now because I feel like me and my mum argue so much, and I really want it to stop, but I don't know what to do. I am scared to give her this letter...

I wanted to see if there is anyone doing early potty training with their child. My son is 17 months and I am starting him on the potty. I was talking to a coworker that has 3 boys and she had 2 of them trained by 18 months and she said it was so much easier to do it then. She waited till her youngest son was 2 to start training and it took him way longer and it was harder to get him trained.

Anyway, I got him some underwear and a potty seat today and I can already see some progress. I also got some stickers to give him as a reward for sitting on the potty.

Anyone else potty training early or has done so in the past? I'd like some tips and/or tricks :)