For the first time today I was thinking about bringing home baby and ATM im living at my boyfriends parents house which is over runned by cousins and aunts coming over every night and not leaving till 10-11pm which is the usual! So I suggested to my boyfriend if on the night when we come home can it just be us and the family that lives here instead of everyone and what did he do get the ump and argue with me because I'm selfish..
What are you all thinking of doing when home with baby?x
Visitors after labour
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My next baby I dont want any visitors for a while. I was very uncomfortable and tired after delivery. I also just wanted to spent the first hours/days with my family. That isn't selfish at all. It's selfish that you just had a baby and your bf doesn't understand. I made the mistakes with having family over crowd my child. Will ^not being doing that again.
I over done it with visitors after having my daughter to the point where I felt ill! Looking back I wish I'd said no for at least 2 days. I had visitors from the minute I stepped foot back in my house, and that was only 3 hours after giving birth! It really is draining having a baby & your partner needs to put you first. Yes, its exciting showing your new baby off to everyone, but a couple of days wont make a difference! x
We didn't have visitors either for a while. In fact the only visitors in the hospital were mine and my husband's parents, and my best friend. And one of the nursing students was my friend but she was there for school lol. And when we got home no one came by for about a week. Even now I don't like company over for long or late and our baby is 4 weeks today.
We had tons of visitors while in the hospital, to the point where I couldn't get any sleep at all. My brother in law showed up less than an hour after I had given birth. I gave birth at 3:30 AM on a Thursday, and we got home around 3 PM on Friday. I refused all visitors except my parents (who were dropping off dinner), but the influx began again on Saturday. Next time, I want at least a few days at home with just our family. The visitors in the hospital weren't as bad as having people in and out of my messy house. Especially since I'm really sensitive about how people see my house.
Don't feel bad! You need time to recover & bond with baby. Not to mention it can be overwhelming for baby to have so many people. We have only let Grandparents visit our home & she is 5wks old. We are just now feeling like we are ready for others. Follow your instincts & good luck :)
We had visitors nonstop from the moment we walked into the hospital. We were fine with it but my husband and I had an agreement that this was not a time that we had to be polite. If we wanted to be alone we would tell people. And there was definite time when we asked everyone to leave. Everyone understood.
While I upset quite a few of my inland I said please no visitors for one week after coming home. They still came over (grrr) but they stayed only a few minutes, I learned my lesson with my first just how exhausting too many visitors is, so I don't think ur selfish at all
I am so glad you are all saying this after finally moaning about it to my sister who gets exactly where I'm coming from I told him again that if he didn't respect me in what I was asking for then I would go back to my mums for a few days (which was more a threat than probably an actual doing) as he would then understand I was serious! But I showed him the comments from you all and he's now realising it isn't just me...
But this is when I really want my own place honestly when I come home from work looking for a chill out evening there are about 8-11 people here each night! And there not always the nicest to me if you see any of my older posts!
I really do need to win the lottery lol and move! xx
But this is when I really want my own place honestly when I come home from work looking for a chill out evening there are about 8-11 people here each night! And there not always the nicest to me if you see any of my older posts!
I really do need to win the lottery lol and move! xx
I didnt have any visitors the first week and then only 3 until my mom came dd was almost a month. But my family is from GA and hubbys is in PA and we are stationed in HI. So thats a bit why but with all I plan to do the same.
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