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My BC is next door to a hospital and I am pre-registered there. Can't be safer. I tell her hospitals only deal with 10% natural and I want to stick with the experts in natural birth. I don't want to be confined to a bed on monitors so I can have gravity work for me. She keeps telling me hospitals aren't like that based on her experiences 3 decades ago.
She thinks water birth is weird and hasn't held back this opinion. Now she's trying to strengthen her argument by saying I'm putting my baby at risk for infection and how selfish that is.
I had 2 relatives die in childbirth and she keeps bringing that up as a scare tactic which I think crosses the line. Who tells a pregnant woman they will die or cause their baby to have birth defects?! It's cruel.
I know I am doing so much more prep work (research and classes) than the average mom and I believe my choices will lead to better outcomes for my child.
Sorry for the vent. I am not sure if you have any advice for me. Short of ending all convos with my mom, I'm not sure how else to handle it. Facts don't appear to matter (as she trusts her experiences despite being 25-30 yrs ago over current facts/stats). Ugh!!!
Did anyone use a doula in he hospital? What was your experience? Any advise?
My husband and I are currently looking into prenatal and delivery options. I have always been a holistic person and have wanted to do a home water birth with a midwife. I have researched for months and have found more pros then cons. I am curious to hear if anyone has delivered with a midwife and had a natural water birth.
You may have been told by a provider that you can't or you shouldn't attempt a vaginal delivery. But is that the whole truth? Or are they only telling you what hospital policies are? In most cases, moms are perfectly capable of pushing babies out of their bodies.
If you're curious at all, please visit: *vbacfacts.com
*Attend a meeting with your local chapter of ICAN (international cesarean awareness network) and find out about your actual options and how to achieve success in whatever birth you choose.
Here's the backstory:
I was a FTM due on 8/31. My husband and I had been ttc for 3-4 years so were pretty excited about this little one. My husband is Native American, so we used tribal health which made me a little apprehensive as they sometimes don't have the best reputation - I will be the first to say I had the completely wrong impression - we had a great experience.
I had a very smooth pregnancy, worked up until the day I had her. I saw midwives almost the whole pregnancy - only seeing the OBs (all of whom I really liked) when the midwives didn't have any available appointments (so dang many low risk women :)). I ended up going past me EDD to 41+5 but had very, very little pressure to induce. Had one NST & BPP with low end of normal fluid at 41 weeks. I was pretty darn anxious for this baby to make an appearance!
I had a few days of false labor with contractions starting up at night and going away by the next morning - it was very emotionally draining. On 9/10, my husband and I went into the city to run errands, came home, I got a massage, and did some work at the office. By 5pm, my contractions were starting to pick up some. We decided to go for a walk and they continued to increase in intensity. Since this had been the pattern the past couple of days, I wasn't really getting my hopes up. I decided to take a shower figuring the relaxation would space things out. It didn't. Then I decided to lay down and see if that would space things out. It didn't. By this point it was about 8pm. We decided to head into town and drop our dogs off with friends. We figured if things slowed down we would come back home, but if they intensified, we could go up to the hospital. Well, things continued to intensify. I think my contractions were about 3-4 minutes apart and about 45 seconds long but still completely manageable.
We arrived at the hospital around 9:30pm. One of my favorite midwives that I had seen happened to be the one on duty - score! She checked me and I was at a 6. We had written a birth plan that was really hands off and the midwife and staff honored it completely. She encouraged us to walk, brought juice and crackers, suggested the shower (for some reason we never used it), brought us a birthing ball, never mentioned pain meds and pretty much left us alone. It was wonderful. I labored mostly standing leaning over the bed, on the birth ball, or on my hands and knees. At about 2am I requested a check and was 9.5cm. At 3am, I was still 9.5cm but needed to push, so she held back the lip - ouch but manageable. I pushed in a semi-squat for about an hour. Our little one was born at 3:59am on 9/11. My husband got to announce that it was a girl - thrilling! We waited until the cord stopped pulsing to cut it and snuggled with our little girl for about an hour while she repaired a couple tears. It was an incredibly empowering and emotional experience. I felt like I could do anything after having an unmedicated birth.
My recovery has been really easy and I credit that to staying active during pregnancy and the relatively easy labor and delivery. I wanted to say that having the birth of your choice IS possible in a hospital with the right support. We were blown away by how helpful the staff was - especially after being initially apprehensive at having a hospital experience.